It is the responsibility of family members to organize the care for an elderly relative but it’s essential to discuss care with your relative and the other people involved before a crisis could occur. Discussing the matter is often sensitive as it may not just be about their personal care, social care, and convenience care, but emotional care too.
Here are 6 important things to consider while having the discussion with your elderly parents.
- Plan the Conversation-
Planning the conversation regarding ‘care’ is the first and foremost matter. Consider what you want to discuss, who should be there and where and when should you do it. Pre-planning ensures that you have relevant care options to discuss. Involving the whole family members and friends can help create a better picture of the care outcome. A place that is familiar and comfortable for your parents can encourage a more positive conversation.
- Discuss it sooner than later-
It is advisable that, you discuss the care options with your parents before they need care, which can remove some pressure and doubts that accompany this decision later on. You want to help your parents live well longer but it should not come at the expense of your own health, therefore considering the options available in the care plan and making decisions for future ahead of time can meet everyone’s needs. Your parents may also deny the care. Thus, discussing care earlier, you can give them more time to make these difficult decisions and also everyone is aware of it knowing that it is a decision for the future.
- Define the need-
It is important to know the type of care your parents need. Investigate the day to day activities of your parents, like washing, eating habits, social life, their memory power etc. Without knowing their need it might be difficult to provide the care that they need and deserve.
- Understanding what they want/need-
Keeping in mind your parent’s needs and wants, their preferences and the options available in a care home will allow you to provide the care that best suits them. Your parents may have some concern, such as losing their independence or financial worries. Therefore, it is important to consider the opinions and emotions of all parties involved and discuss the care options and decide the matter from simple things like booking doctor’s appointment to moving into a residential care home.
- Being a patient listener-
There will be elements in your parent’s lives which they would want to maintain but now it is out of their control and of yours too. Therefore, it is important that how you can help them practically. Your parents may find it frustrating to give up their independence; you too may feel equally powerless at the situation. Take your time to discuss all of the options and give chance to think things over to your parents patiently. During these conversations try to remain calm and positive with your loved ones.
- Considering the options-
Depending on your parent’s needs, the available care options vary considerably. It is probable that needs may change in the future, so it’s important to consider the different outline that may arise. There are many options you may want to consider such as homecare, residential care or more specialist care options. You should include your parents in the visits if possible and listen to their choices to ensure that they are happy with any decisions that are made. As super carers, we believe that great relationships lead to loving care and help families to find perfect carers based on personalities, interests and care needs. This includes, first the interview of care candidates for you before making any decision- so you can be sure that they are the right fit for you.